Being thin is looked at as a lifestyle. Looked upon as beautiful. As fashionable, as a trend and is sold constantly by the media. Thin is good - thin is something to aspire to - thin is happiness - thin is attractive. Fat is lazy - fat is ugly - fat is something to hate.
In our modern age, with the amount of knowledge we have access to - why is something like an eating disorder so prominent? What is so modern about that?
Men and women with eating disorders are idolized. Although people appear scared, there is some kind of mysterious allure about them. In the magazines, people on ''shock'' and ''fad'' diets are always on front pages. Body transformation is a huge aspect of todays culture.
Image is becoming a disease. And it is a disease.
People love to talk about how they are hitting the gym, or the new regieme they are undergoing. They enjoy publicising how much weight they have lost, or what club they have just joined. They love to show off the reduction of size. It is something they are proud of. Being ''fat'', is not.
People are in such a hurry to get to the new 'it' look. To have the straightest, or curliest hair. To have the highest, or flattest heals. To fit into that smaller bikini. They are in such a hurry that they miss the real point - that beauty is not, and cannot be found externally. It is a pursuit that is everlasting.
Real beauty and satisfaction comes from inside. You can get all the material image appeal you want, and still be the most miserable person ever. You can be on the front cover of a magazine because of the ''shocking weight loss'' and be totally sad and lost.
This generation is growing up in an environment feeding into their young minds this false importance and urgency on ''looking good'' which is also defined by the media. You know, not even 50 years ago the ''good look'' and ''ideal size'' was about a size 14? Now that is considered overweight - and that some weight needs to be lost.
Science is immature and ever-developing - do not let it define you. Do not let it tell you who or what you are.
You don't need to be smaller to be beautiful. You don't have to hit the gym and lose those ''extra'' yet perfectly places pounds. Because the body is such a superficial and material thing. It is material, it is extremely tempoary, it is a tool. Do not let this tool, for your soul, deteriorate and take over your souls true puropse; to be happy, and make others happy.
I see and hear all my friends and people around me talking about going to the gym, about being fat, about not fitting into the clothes they want. And all I see is beauty. But - i have been to the extremes of that mindset.
I have been in the depths of a severe eating disorder. I have felt extremely fat, yet been very thin. I have wanted to get smaller and smaller - but the pursuit was ever lasting. I though, if i lose just 4 more kilos, then, and only then will i be happy. But no, it was more kilos.. and more.. Because it is not about how much we weigh, but what we are placing and translating into our weight.
Our fears, our anger, our insecurities, our hate. We can control our weight, to an extent, but we cannot always control those things.
I wonder if we could live without knowing how much we weighed. Or without looking into a mirror for just a day. These are things that are considered essential. Image has become essential.
Esteem is based upon our image, rank and status, how our day will go. So much relies on how much we weigh. Or that is what you think... I beleive otherwise. So much relies not on how much we weigh, that is only a socially constructed concept. But rather, a lot relies on how we interpret our weight.
I can tell you, being thin - being really thin is not going to make you happy. Only you can do that, your spirit. I can tell you, that losing sizes is not going to make you happy, it might even make you unhappy. I can tell you that you don't need to lose those pounds to impress me, but you do need to lose that attitude. I can tell you that weight has nothing to do with you and your happiness, but to do with your misery.
You have to learn to love yourself for who and what you really are - not for a number or a mediated conception of what is beautiful. In 20 years time, maybe the new look will be to be a size 24. Will you follow that? Don't need to fit in to anything, but your own skin.
I can tell you - that i have never been happier than i am now, and i have never heavy or large.
Do not get me wrong, living a healthy lifestyle and becoming that is great. But when your emotions rely on how much you weigh - that is never healthy.
I love you, you beautiful freak you!
Dr. Nourozi: Diagnonsense: overweight.
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