Limits are so limiting.

The last few years I've been having these dilemmas such as being able to do anything i want yet still not doing it. Ive been trying to decipher what is just my mind creating barriers and true barriers and if these are even separate. Trying to distinguish what is actually possible, and what is just darn right absurd. This kind of thinking is good to an extent - but i think i have gone too far. It brings about a sense of insanity, because it makes you feel like where you are today is completely wrong, and that you should or could be doing something else which is usually imagined to be something much more glamorous.

But when i think like this, that i could be doing anything i wanted, then i get lost in the possibilities ending up overwhelmed, tired and probably gazing into the fridge for something to eat. So what is the right balance between imagination VS reality? Are they essentially the same thing, in that there are no limits to what can be real if you can imagine it? I'm not completely sure and i am still trying to find that balance. Imagining all the possibilities and the things you could be doing can make you feel pretty out of place and alienated. I've thought many times, what am i doing here? What is my purpose? Why am i not doing this other thing?

There comes a point where thinking about these questions endlessly just becomes a complete waste of time, and not only does it not get you anywhere (a lot of the time) but it can actually deteriorate your well being, sense of belonging and accomplishment.

You have as much control over your life as you think you do. This seems like such an obvious statement, but if you really investigate its meaning, it reveals a lot. What gives us our sense of control over our life? Perhaps its past achievements or doings by people close to you, perhaps its placing the word 'genius' into our vocabulary that makes revolutionary ideas seem out of reach, or maybe its past personal experiences. 

The truth is we need to renew this sense of control every morn. We should wake up believing we can do anything we want to - regardless of external triggers saying we cannot or shouldn't. Do not be put down by past failures, because failures are a sign that you of all people are trying and getting closer to the thing you want to achieve. It is by failure that we have the opportunity to perfect things, we learn, grow and develop in many ways. If we didn't have failures, and we achieved what we wanted to immediately, what kind of achievement is that?

 People who work hard get great results - this is a recurring statement in many psychological theories (which science clearly supports) that practise and persistence are more important than intrinsic talent. Practise. The term practise means that you will become better over time and get closer to your goal each time. If your goal is attainable then you will get there - if you truly want to. 

It might be damn hard to use your own mind to convince your own mind that your mind is what is creating your own limits, but if you can do that you will be refreshed and inspired without a doubt. I was constantly told that my own recovery would take years, but i didn't want to listen to these made up limits to what i could or could not do in whatever time, so i adapted my own approach towards things for about 6 months and this approach was to 'try my hardest every day i wake up for every minute i am awake, and sleep in preparation for the next day'. This meant starting completely new every day. I didn't like the idea of having goals because this only seemed negative to me psychologically. I thought, and still think, that goals (usually) set you up for failure. There are a few reasons why i think this: a)once you make a goal you are already limiting yourself by saying this is the peak of what i need to achieve b)if you do not make your goal you will feel like you have failed c)this sense of failure will cause you to bring down your goals d)goals are only conceptualized by certain factors in our minds - what we think we can do based on our own perceptions of ourselves. 

I want to expand on d). Because our perceptions of ourselves are influenced so vastly by many external sources our perceptions are almost always flawed. This means letting those external sources take a large amount of control over your goal setting. But as we know, these 'geniuses' obviously had no limits for themselves, for if they did they would have been restricted by the present 'ideas' and 'science' of their time and would not have revolutionised it. They did not limit themselves in this way! And neither should you. 

Now this isn't to say that sometimes goal setting isn't useful, but in the larger scope of things i do not use them anymore as after months of reflection i came to a sound conclusion that goals are not only restricting, but ironic in the sense that the effects of achieving your goal will always be somewhat negative. 

So tonight i rest again, tomorrow i shall wake up refreshed and have a brand new set of lungs and eyes and ears and i will set out to do the very best i can at every living moment i have. This is how i want to live, and so i will.

Dr.Nourozi - Prescription: Renewal.